The trouble with Kay
We've been back friends for 2 1/2 years, the last time we fell out was for the same reason.
She has no time for friends, none!
Just because you are an independent woman in your 30's, who happens not to have had children, it does not make your life less important to people who are "parents".
She sends the odd txt, "sorry I've not been in touch, I'm so busy being a mother of one boy, who's 4???!! plus i work part time."
So she's a taker not a giver, she needed to pop into work for free bikinis for Dubai.
Needed free bathroom taps, i took her to lunch on her birthday, she left my card with my brother, as she was busy. Ahhh!
I mean, she's phoned me once this year, not for a chat you understand, for MJ's number so she could discuss lazer eye surgery with him.
3 weeks ago she said come for your tea, i'll txt you next week.
NOT!
So i let her know i had all last week off, surely she'd be free once over 9 days.............erm! No word.
Thing is everytime i do insist on seeing her, i need my hair cutting, which makes me feel like i'm using her, but if i go elsewhere for a trim, will she get offended?
I know i'm only moaning because i care about our friendship, but you need to invest time and effort into friends, she does neither!!!
She has no time for friends, none!
Just because you are an independent woman in your 30's, who happens not to have had children, it does not make your life less important to people who are "parents".
She sends the odd txt, "sorry I've not been in touch, I'm so busy being a mother of one boy, who's 4???!! plus i work part time."
So she's a taker not a giver, she needed to pop into work for free bikinis for Dubai.
Needed free bathroom taps, i took her to lunch on her birthday, she left my card with my brother, as she was busy. Ahhh!
I mean, she's phoned me once this year, not for a chat you understand, for MJ's number so she could discuss lazer eye surgery with him.
3 weeks ago she said come for your tea, i'll txt you next week.
NOT!
So i let her know i had all last week off, surely she'd be free once over 9 days.............erm! No word.
Thing is everytime i do insist on seeing her, i need my hair cutting, which makes me feel like i'm using her, but if i go elsewhere for a trim, will she get offended?
I know i'm only moaning because i care about our friendship, but you need to invest time and effort into friends, she does neither!!!
posted by Karen @ 11:06 AM
1 Comments:
At 11:39 AM,
Matt said…
This is my view:
Friendships are like investments. If you put a lot in, you reap dividends, if you don't, you don't.
You invest in your relationship and so you are entitled to get your haircuts out of it. She really doesn't deserve anything but you are a good friend.
Ask yourself the following questions and if the answer no to each question, dump her like a stone:
Would the quality of your life be significantly lower with Kay not in it?
Is the investment of effort, time, money and general negative emotion redeemed by a haircut every 3 months?
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